Alice was good with numbers. She worked in the loan department of a bank, and she was proud of her work. It meant a lot to her that her calculations and attention to detail allowed local businesses to invest, create new jobs, and serve the community. It was a quiet kind of satisfaction, careful and sensible.
She felt different when she was involved in what she called her other job. She was one of many volunteer drivers who collected food from restaurants and stores — food that otherwise would have gone to the dump — and took it to a big kitchen which a local non-profit ran. There, all that left-over food was turned into meals for the homeless and the working poor. Think of it as a place where The Nashville Food Project meets Luke 14:12.
So, it was not unusual for Alice to stop by a doughnut shop early one Tuesday morning, before she had to be at the office. She picked up several boxes of doughnuts that hadn’t been sold the previous day; boxes of sweet deliciousness on the backseat of her Honda, two stacks of them, gently strapped in place with seatbelts, and another box on the passenger seat with her hand on it so a sudden step on the brake wouldn’t send things flying forward. At the kitchen where she was headed, one of the chefs would transform this portion of the daily harvest into a fluffy baked dessert, the most decadent of bread puddings, with a vanilla custard, and in just a few hours, volunteers would serve it as part of a tasty and beautifully presented lunch to folks in the city who often go hungry. Alice was happy to contribute to the daily feast.
On the way from the kitchen to the bank, she was humming. Circling down into the garage she had a smile on her face, and she was still smiling when she stepped on the elevator that would take her to the twelfth floor. Three more people got in the car when it stopped at the lobby, and one of them, briefcase in one hand, phone in the other, eyes on the screen, suddenly looked up, with big, happy eyes, and said, “It smells like doughnuts in here. I love doughnuts.”
There was a hint of a blush on Alice’s face when she told everybody on the way up about her other job and the joy of it. When she got off on the twelfth floor, she had recruited the doughnut lover to come along on her next food-gleaning round. There was a sweet fragrance that lingered in that car, and it wasn’t just the doughnuts; it was difficult to describe with words, but unforgettable.
John takes us to Bethany, a village just a couple of miles outside Jerusalem. Mary, Martha, and Lazarus lived there, and Jesus stayed with them for dinner the day before he entered Jerusalem for the last time. Just a few days earlier, Jesus had miraculously brought life to their house. You know the story. The sisters had sent him a message to let him know that Lazarus was very ill, and when he arrived, his friend had already been in the tomb for days. Martha told him, “Lord, there is a stench because he has been dead four days.” Then Jesus stood outside the tomb, weeping, and he shouted, “Lazarus, come out!” And Lazarus came out, not like some Zombie, but Lazarus himself, restored to life.
Jesus came to Bethany six days before the Passover knowing full well that his opponents in the city were making plans to put him to death. He knew that his days were numbered and that this might well be his last meal with his good friends.
Martha served the food, Lazarus was one of those at table with him, and no one had noticed that Mary had gone until she came back, holding a small jar in her hands. She loosened her hair — in a room full of men — which raised plenty of eyebrows, but that was only the beginning. Without saying a word she knelt and poured the content of the jar on Jesus’ feet, a pound of perfume made of precious oils. We know that at least one person in the room was offended by the extravagance of her act — but a woman touching and rubbing a man’s feet in front of others, that just wasn’t done. How high can you raise your eyebrows at the dinner table before you get up and either say something or leave the room? And then she wiped his anointed feet with her hair. Her hair!
She knelt, she touched, she poured, she caressed his skin with her hair, but she didn’t speak. Mary Gordon calls it “the most purely sensual moment in the Gospels.”[1] And Debie Thomas notes that
what happens between Jesus and Mary in this narrative happens skin to skin. Mary doesn’t need to use words; her yearning, her worship, her gratitude, and her love are enacted wholly through her body. Just as Jesus later breaks bread with his disciples, Mary breaks open the jar in her hands, allowing its contents to pour freely over Jesus’s feet. …[And] Jesus, rather than shunning her intimate gesture, receives Mary’s gift into his own body with gratitude, tenderness, pleasure, and blessing.[2]
With this moment of great tenderness, Jesus’ body is brought into view, the body soon to be subjected to abuse and torture and a cruel execution. It’s as though Mary knew what lay ahead for him, that death was closing in; as though she knew that he would hold nothing back. And holding nothing back, unashamed, she poured out her love and gratitude for the man who embodied the extravagant love of God.
And Mary didn’t say a word. Judas, it appears, did all the talking. He objected, pointing out that the perfume could have been sold for a lot of money, enough to feed an entire family for a year. His words sounded like the voice of moral protest. They sounded like advocacy for the poor — but his protest smelled rotten, because it didn’t have love in it. It was just ugly noise.
Just a few days later, Jesus would spend the last evening with his disciples in the city. During supper, he would get up, take off his robe, tie a towel around himself, pour water into a basin, wash the disciples’ feet, wipe them with the towel, and he wouldn’t say a word until he got to Peter who protested.
“Do you know what I have done to you?” he would say to them. “I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet. You also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I have set you an example, that you also should do as I have done to you. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.”
Mary of Bethany lived that new commandment, even before it was given. Just outside the city where deathly plans were being plotted, Mary’s house became a house of prophetic witness to love and life. The stench of death was still a vivid memory there, but what lingered, what infused every room and corner of the house was the sweet fragrance of love’s extravagance. What lingered was the aroma of Mary’s folk coronation of a king who washes feet, of a man who inspires and commands those who follow him to love each other as he has loved them: with abandon.
Most of us don’t do that, most of the time. My friend Dot, every year, on a day that was special to them, used to put on her friend’s grave the most lavish flower arrangement. Each year, the flowers quickly wilted, and each year, some of Dot’s friends chided her for what they considered her misguided generosity. As a retired teacher, she didn’t have a lot of disposable income. Wouldn’t all that money be better spent if she made an annual contribution to a scholarship fund instead? One day, she sat across from me and asked, “What do you think I should do?”
“Don’t let them get to you,” I told her. “Nothing done for love is ever wasted.”
Mary loved with abandon, and most of us don’t do that, most of the time. We love in Jesus’ name, but carefully, with a strong sense for what’s practical and sensible and efficient. Most of the time, we don’t pour out our love like Mary, mirroring the outpouring of love she knew because of Jesus. Except, sometimes we do, like Dot.
Most of the time, we’re like Alice who knows how to calculate carefully before taking a loan proposal to the deal committee. Alice who knows the numbers, and the institutional demands, and the markets, and the margins. Alice who also drives across town with boxes of yesterday’s doughnuts stacked in the backseat and a big smile on her face, humming, because there’s such joy in being part of making life resemble the feast that it is.
There was and is nothing economical about Jesus’ death, just as there was and is nothing economical about his life. It was and is and will be the fullness of his life poured out for the life of the world. He is God’s extravagant generosity and compassion in the flesh. And because of him, sometimes we love daringly as we await the fullness of the new creation, when the whole world will smell like Mary’s house, an unending feast of love and life.
[1] Mary Gordon, Reading Jesus: A Writer’s Encounter with the Gospels (New York: Anchor Books, 2009), 36.
[2] Debie Thomas https://www.journeywithjesus.net/essays/2153-while-you-still-have-me